I am all over James Corden's Carpool Karaoke segments, as is most of the world. Well, we were all in for a treat when Jennifer Lopez had her turn in the passenger seat. They got things started with one of my fav JLo hits 'Love Don't Cost A Thing'; chatted about how her ass isn't insured before jamming out to 'Booty'; and then proceeded to sing 'Jenny From The Block - another one of my favs. Jennifer sang in Spanish and the two also sang Bruno Mars' 'Locked Out of Heaven' prior to James Corden hijacking her phone and texting Leonardo DiCaprio (best part of the whole entire segment). Watch it all go down below: I think that it's safe to say that every one of us has had a day or two where we hate ourselves and only notice our "flaws". It's insane how quickly we can think of ourselves negatively versus finding something positive. It's what holds us back from achieving our goals to better ourselves for the future.
I go through this on a daily basis. From having a poor self-esteem to hating what's looking back at me in the mirror more days than not, I'm stuck fantasizing of what I could be and what I was before instead of living in the present. Many people, including my fitspiration Kate Hudson, say that you need to love and accept yourself right this moment before you can move forward. Obsessing over having arms like Jennifer Aniston during her 'Friends' days and getting rid of my cellulite and stretch marks is doing more harm than good. A really great and useful tool is one of the prompt's in Kate Hudson's Pretty Happy book. It asks that you write down 5 things that you like about what you see in the mirror, and 5 things you don't like. Then, ask yourself if exercising and changing your lifestyle would truly make a difference with how you feel about yourself. More than likely it'll only do so much and not make you completely change how you feel about yourself. That's okay. Just breathe and accept all of you. You made it this far. Keep your head up high, start walking and don't look back. Another great tool is positive self-talk. You'll think you're nuts at first, but it's super rewarding - I promise. Look at yourself in the mirror. Look directly into your eyes. Say 5 positive things to yourself such as, "I am smart", "I am beautiful", "I am talented", I am "strong", and "I am successful". You will feel so empowered and YOU made yourself feel that way. Give these things a try and you'll get the most out of this journey.
I want to start off by thanking everyone for all of your support after sending out yesterday's post regarding my struggle with anxiety. That post led to my cousin letting me in on this extremely powerful story from Prison Break star Wentworth Miller.
There has been a cruel meme (can someone please comment below how the hell you actually pronounce it) body-shaming Wentworth when he was at his worst - except no one knew his situation. He responded to them in the perfect way with this Facebook post:
Why do people get off on making others feel shitty about themselves? Seriously. You know, the people with the biggest smiles on their face are the most damaged. But you only ever notice what's on the outside and don't take the time (not that it's your business) to clue into what's happening on the inside. I applaud Wentworth for pulling through those difficult times and for not letting this meme or those headlines push him over the edge.
Articles and memes like that are a giant F-you, as if all of the success you've achieved means absolutely nothing. And they say being a celebrity is all glitz and glamour. Puh-lease. Why they publish those kind of articles is beyond me. With Wentworth, at the time he wasn't doing anything in the spotlight. They should have respected that and reported on someone who was. That's my beef with tabloids. They'll turn anything and everything into a story, good or bad. I am going to make a huge promise right now, for this blog. I refuse to report on someone's bad times against their wishes. Unless they come out with the story, and I mean they're the ones making a statement via a publicist or on social media, you won't find it here. Shit just got real... Mother Monster is 30 years-old! I feel like she's ageless and will look the same forever.
This post comes after she had the party of all of our dreams this past weekend (oh, Happy belated Easter). My fitspiration Kate Hudson, Taylor Swift, Lorde, Suki Waterhouse, Nick Jonas, Mark Ronson, Lana Del Ray, Kathy Bates, Pharrell Williams, Evan Ross and Ashley Simpson Ross, Kylie Minogue, Lisa Vanderpump, Taylor Armstrong, Chrissy Teigen and John Legend joined Gaga, her fiancé Taylor Kinney and family to celebrate the big 3-0. Rumour has it that she and Taylor Kinney may have already tied the knot as her engagement ring has been replaced with a gold band. Regardless, Taylor treated her like the queen she is making sure she was okay throughout the night. The party guests were delighted to watch her perform. Oh how I would love to be a fly on the wall. This is a majorly overdue post. I have been struggling to come up with the right words as this is such a touchy and personal topic. Here goes nothing.
Mental health has been a hot topic within the last couple of years. We're seeing it discussed on all sorts of platforms, but the one that affected me the most would have to be Bell Media's #BellLetsTalk campaign. I couldn't figure out why I was so sensitive to all of the celebrities and everyday people that were coming out with their struggles with mental health. I felt really connected to the ones who talked about anxiety and depression. I then started doing some research via Google where I found a lot of familiar symptoms. A constant feeling of nausea, having a lump in my throat, non-stop panic, crying for no reason, getting all clammy and sweaty, and feeling dead inside were just a few things having a negative impact on my day-to-day life. This went on for 6 months until I brought it up to my mom. Then, it was off to my family doctor who sent me to an in-office mental health councillor to learn how to cope with anxiety. That's right, I have anxiety. It was an answer, but not one I exactly wanted. I was thinking (and told by a few people I opened up to) that it was just stress because there had been a lot of change in my life all at once. Or it was the time of year (I started talking about how I felt in the fall/winter). Or it's all in my mind and it's up to me to calm myself. I finally know and understand why so many people suffer in silence. These responses make you feel 1000 times worse. After three months of seeing my mental health councillor, I can say that my anxiety has subsided. It's not gone as I still have the occasional triggered panic attack - I had one last week right before a Teen Talk taping - but it's also not suffocating me and keeping me away from doing the things I love. I think what helped was taking time to care for myself in all aspects, something a lot of us forget to do. We remember to eat healthy and exercise, but leave our minds to fend for themselves. Making sure I get in a sweat session everyday versus 3 to 4 times a week and reading something funny (I recommend David Spade's memoir) before bed have helped me feel more at ease. I wrote this so that if you're feeling similar to how I was, or not yourself, you know it's okay to talk about it and to seek help. I can't stress the importance of doing those two things enough. #SavsFitJourney is about taking care of all of us, not just parts of us. |
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